I have insulted my mother especially so much in the last 15 years that she is not keen on me visiting her after 8 years of not seeing them. Mind you, they were never keen on seeing me. It was the same when I surprised visit them from Quebec City, hithchiking with a girlfriend. And after my crisis in 2001, I went home for three weeks only to convalesce and found an apartment quickly cuz mom wanted me out. She told me I was too lazy an it bugged her. I was just after a major crisis and having burnt out from overwork for three years. Anyway, it has always been like that. A very long good friend of hers once cut her off saying she was the most selfish person she had ever befriended. And dumped her forever that day.